Domestic Violence Awareness Month

In 1981, the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence named October, “National Domestic Violence Awareness Month.” Domestic violence affects millions of women and men around the world and is shown in many different forms.

National Domestic Violence Awareness Month is a chance to spread the word and help the victims who are being abused by their partners. This October, Tulsa ER & Hospital is breaking down the different types of abusive behavior and ways to cope with an abusive relationship.

Domestic Abuse

It’s common for abusive partners to shift the blame away from themselves and manipulate others into thinking it’s their fault. Because of these mind tricks, some people might not even be aware they’re in an abusive relationship.

Domestic violence isn’t always black eyes and bruises. Below are the different types of abuse and the signs of an abusive partner.

Physical Abuse

  • Hurting or threatening to hurt you or those you love
  • Throwing objects at or near you
  • Using violence to intimidate you
  • Scratching and grabbing
  • Pushing, slapping, and punching
  • Biting and spitting
  • Strangling
  • Threatening to kill you/family members/friends/pets
  • Destroying meaningful possessions

Emotional Abuse

  • Manipulating your children or friends
  • Interrupting, changing the topic, not listening to you when you talk
  • Twisting your words and lying about what you said
  • Cheating or being overly jealous
  • Monitoring your social media, phone, computer, or car use
  • Yelling in your face
  • Taunting you in public or around other people
  • Calling you names, mocking, and humiliating you
  • Preventing you from seeing your loved ones

Financial Abuse

  • Not allowing you to work or go to school
  • Sabotaging opportunities for success
  • Withholding money
  • Recklessly spending your money as a form of punishment
  • Running up debt in your name
  • Jeopardizing employment

In addition to these characteristics—unwanted visits, stalking, going through someone’s personal items without permission, and refusing to leave when asked can all be signs of abuse as well.


If you or someone you know are experiencing abuse, you are not alone. Almost three out of four Americans know someone personally who has been or is a victim of domestic violence. Confiding in a friend or family member you trust about the situation can help you feel less isolated.

Additionally, the National Domestic Violence Hotline works to unite victims of abuse and create a safe environment to form a plan of action. The NDVH helps victims come up with a personalized safety plan to help stay safe while in an abusive relationship, planning to leave, or after you have left. The NDVH tailors the safety plan to best fit your individual circumstances by walking you through specific scenarios. They also offer legal information, tips on the safest ways to leave an abusive partner, and different resources to help victims. Read the stories, advice, and options from abuse survivors here.

If you or a loved one want to speak confidentially to someone about domestic abuse, the National Domestic Violence Hotline is available 24/7 at 1-800-799-7233-7233.

For any injuries, accidents, and medical emergencies—related or not related to domestic abuse—Tulsa ER & Hospital is here for you. Our staff of highly trained doctors and nurses are ready to assist you at any time of the day, every day of the year.

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